World Adoption Day

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World Adoption DayIt’s World Adoption Day, how are you going to celebrate?

Today, the 15th November 2016 marks the third World Adoption Day, a day designed to celebrate adoption and adoptive families.  All over the world families are posting pictures of themselves on social media with a smiley on their hand. Why? Simply because no matter how tragically a child’s story begins, adoption brings new hope. Whether you are an adoptive family or not, you can join us: grab a pen, draw a smiley and post a photo too.

And, here are a few more ideas about how you can celebrate:

Think about adoption

Even if adoption has never been on the agenda before for your family, today is a day to think about it. Ask yourself these questions:

Talk about adoption

To everyone.  Most of our children are now exposed to adoptive families and they may have loads of unanswered questions.  Today is a great opportunity to talk about what it means to be adopted, why children need adoptive families and how they should talk to friends who are adopted.

In addition, anecdotal evidence seems to suggest that children who are exposed to positive adoption stories when they are children are more likely to consider growing their families through adoption when they are adults.

Also remember that the reality in South Africa is that there are millions of unparented children who need families.  The situation is tragic so even if you are not in a position to adopt, it is probably not something that you should ignore.

Get involved

If you are not able to adopt (and even if you are), consider helping those who take care of orphans.  Today is a great day to find a local Place of Safety or orphanage in need of aid, discover what they require and offer to donate goods, money or time to help them (involve your children if you can, they will love being able to assist and it will give them a new perspective on their own lives and how privileged they really are).

Finally, if you are an adoptive family, tell your story

If you are an adoptive family, wherever you happen to be on the day, tell your story.  Be it with family, friends, at your place of worship, your sports club, the gym or the mall, today is a good day to talk about adoption and what it means to you.  Tell what you feel comfortable telling, tell it formally or informally but however you do it, use today to celebrate your own adoptive family and, if you are willing, share your journey to inspire and help others.

How can you find out more?

If you need any assistance with getting involved or finding out about more about how to adopt, see How to adopt in South Africa or or send me a message on the contact us page and I will do my best to point you in the right direction.

Time to celebrate

Happy World Adoption Day everyone, show off your smiley :), enjoy the day and here is to many many more!



Why so many men don’t want to adopt

Posted by on 06-October-2014 in Articles on adoption | 1 comment

Why so many men don’t want to adopt

Why some men struggle with adoption by Robyn Wolfson Vorster People talk to me now. It may sound odd, but since we adopted our daughter loads of strangers suddenly want to chat. The conversation varies but when I am speaking to women, one theme seems to come up over and over again. They chat animatedly for a bit and finally pause and say sadly: “I’d love to adopt but my husband isn’t keen.” Every story is heart-wrenching and individual but there are so many stories that one has to ask: Why? Why are so many men reluctant to adopt? This is personal for me—my own husband struggled for years to accept the idea of adopting. His eventual change of heart transformed our lives but it did not occur until we faced some of his fears and concerns together. More than two years later, we are now doing our best to understand these issues in other families. Of course these vary from person to person but interestingly, many men seem to share the same reasons for not wanting to adopt. As an aside, some women struggle with exactly the same misgivings but they don’t seem to be as common or as debilitating as those expressed by men. The top three concerns seem to be: Fear Family Finance Reason one: Fear Some of the most prevalent fears that men communicate are: Fear of not being able to love an adopted child as much as a biological child. Fear about how his family, friends and colleagues will react, and how he will cope with these responses. Some men find this very difficult to navigate, especially when they come from traditional families and it is influential family members (such as parents), who may object most to the adoption. Fear of other people’s prejudices. This is particularly true when considering trans-racial adoption. Many men really struggle with the fear that they might not be able to protect their child from harm. Fear of the unknown. Even if they haven’t had children, most men believe that they know what to expect from parenting a biological child. Adoption however, is unfamiliar and brings with it a large amount of fear.  Reason two: Family In many families, family line, name and genetic heritage are fundamentally important. While I was researching this topic, one of the things that I heard men say frequently was: “I would never raise another man’s child.” Be it anxiety about bringing new blood into the family, pride in family characteristics and abilities or a threat to his own masculinity, this seems to be a deep seated concern for a lot of men. Reason three: Finances Raising children, be they biological or adopted, is always costly. However, finance may specifically be a factor in an adoption decision when: The couple would probably want to employ a private social worker or to adopt a child from another country (this often applies to white, coloured and Indian families trying to find a same race child). They already have children but one parent would like to add an adopted child to the family. Both these decisions could bring financial stress and if finance is an issue in a household, this may result in resistance from the male partner. What can you do? So, are these issues insurmountable? Well, perhaps....

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Is adoption for you? 5 questions for infertile couples to consider

Posted by on 10-July-2014 in Articles on adoption | 0 comments

Is adoption for you? 5 questions for infertile couples to consider

If you are struggling with infertility is adoption for you? By Robyn Wolfson Vorster I will always remember that moment. It was the day before we discovered that our fifth and final attempt at IVF had failed. We were celebrating my husband’s birthday when the thought popped (unbidden) into my head, “what will you do if this one fails too?” The answer was simply, “I don’t know.” I adored my son (conceived miraculously from the only embryo we produced in our first attempt at IVF) and my step-daughters, but the thought of not having any more children was devastating. Here I was, driven, goal-oriented and time urgent (the typical infertility profile) and for the first time, I was without a plan. It is only now,  four years later that I’m grateful there was no plan B. At the time, adoption was not an option for us because my husband wasn’t keen. So, I had to fully grieve the loss of the daughter I had dreamt about, the little girl with my features and my husband’s temperament that I was planning to conceive and birth. Little did I know that in letting go of her, I was preparing for the daughter I was intended to have—the one we adopted. She is two now and everything I had hoped for, and more. Adoption was definitely the right option for us. But is it for you? Ask these five questions to find out…[read more]     Image complements of...

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The adoption process in South Africa

Posted by on 08-July-2014 in Articles on adoption | 0 comments

The adoption process in South Africa

How to adopt in South Africa By Robyn Wolfson Vorster It happens all the time, people tell me that they would love to adopt but they are intimidated by the process or don’t know where to start. If you are one of those, here is a short guide on what to do and how to do it. Stage 1: Starting the adoption process…[read more]

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Merry Christmas: An adoption story

Posted by on 17-December-2013 in Articles on adoption | 1 comment

Merry Christmas: An adoption story

by Third Day This song has made me cry every Christmas for the last seven years (long before adoption ever became an option for us).  It is the very personal story of Brad and Mindi Avery’s agonising wait for the arrival of their adoptive daughter and their joy when they were finally able to bring her home. This song is dedicated to everyone living through the wait this Christmas as well as to everyone whose wait is finally over…  ...

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